FAMILY ETIQUETTES IN ISLAM


Family Etiquettesis all about doing the right things at home so that people are happy,relationships are thriving and growing, and having a safe, peaceful home.The family is that brick which forms the foundation of a society. It is composed of individuals that have permanent relations established between them.

Most importantly, it possesses almost a majority of the different kinds of personal relations. Because of this, there must be certain etiquettes placed in order to control and regulate these relations. This is such that it can be maintained in the best possible manner, and so that it can generate and produce its proper fruits. Family relations consist of the relationship between the spouses from one perspective, the relationship between the parents and the children from a second perspective, and the relationship between the children themselves from a third perspective. Some of the family etiquettes are given below.

Importance of the family

Islam places much emphasis on the family unit.  The ties of kinship are so important that they are to be upheld, irrelevant of whether all family members are Muslim or not. [

Qur’an

Allah (Glory be to Him) has made this the etiquette that is required of the Muslim with all people. Allah (Glory be to Him) says “The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah orders the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. [Qur’an.Surah Fussilat 41:34-36]

“… and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of ) the wombs (kinship)…” [Qur’an.Surah Nisa’ 4:1]

Hadith

Narrated by Aisha (R) and Abdullah ibn Abbas (R) : Allah’s Messenger (May Allah honour Him and grant Him Peace)said, “The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.” Tirmidhi 3252           

The Messenger of Allah (May Allah honour Him and grant Him Peace)said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” Sahih Al-Bukhari 5986 and Sahih Al Muslim 2557